Some people confuse a sense of sarcasm with being bluntly rude and honest. Shocker. It's usually misinterpreted and can be challenging to understand. So it's time to prepare yourself with these tips... (Read More)
“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” -Sam Keen
I have a secret game that I play in every conversation I have. Until now, no one knew about it… but I'm about to dish the deets.
I try to get every person I interact with to say, Wow. That’s a great question… at least once in our conversation.
WHY DO I PLAY THIS SILLY GAME?
This personal challenge forces me to stay super present with the person I'm with and… to listen more than I talk. This way I can artfully select a question that leads them into an area of their brain they don't normally hang out in.
It’s fascinating watching someone turn a flashlight on in the halls of their head and search for an answer to a question they never imagined they’d have to answer. I love watching someone lean into something new.
Embarrassing? Yes. Uncommon? Not at all. It is a seemingly harmless approach; a brief introduction between strangers, likely initiated via Facebook or an online dating site. Communication begins. Frequency of messaging increases. Conversations are intense. Photos are shared. Feelings develop. A relationship forms. And then, requests for money begin... (Read More)
Nothing prepares you for the next great love of your life quite like reflecting on what went wrong in past relationships. And there's a wealth of knowledge to be gleaned from the knock-down, drag-out experience of divorce.
Divorced writers reflect on the one regret they have about their marriages and explain how it's made them better equipped for future relationships. (Read More)
Maybe you’re ready for a serious relationship and he’s still on the merry-go-round of life. What’s more, he doesn’t particularly seem to want to jump off.
Or perhaps you really like who he is and feel yourself becoming emotionally attached to him but his actions tell you he’s not ready to go there... (read more)
Let’s be honest; everyone makes mistakes in a relationship. No one is perfect; however, there are just some things that should be avoided at all cost.
Obviously the entire list of no-nos is quite comprehensive, and it would be impossible to effectively address them all here; subsequently, we will focus on the ones that are most common and have the potential to cause irreparable damage to a promising relationship... (read more)
Some great Foody ideas this week!
There are 3 major obstacles when it comes to finding a romantic partner to share your life with.
- You have to FIND him/her.
- You have to MEET him/her.
- You need to determine COMPATIBILITY.
The majority of relationships are entered into based initially upon a foundation of attraction and chemistry. With the divorce rate being over 67% this is not a successful recipe for long-term bliss.
Matchmakers find you potential mates based upon the important factors of compatibility, shared values and hobbies and physical preferences.
Years of research proves that there are 21 areas of indication that will either make or break a relationship. They include sociability, sexual attitudes, religious beliefs, spontaneity, dining out frequency, romance, clothing style, and career influences, to name a few.
Professional matchmaking services using this scientific formula also measure your degree of trust, possessiveness, activity level, jealousy, organization, etc. These areas take 12-24 months to determine on your own.
The reason relationships don’t work out is that ultimately we are not compatible with the people we date.
Determining compatibility first and foremost is a more efficient use of your time, and allows the relationships to be built on a much stronger foundation before adding in the attraction and the chemistry components.
Another bonus of working with a professional matchmaking service is that you are guaranteed to meet X number of people who you are compatible with long-term AND who are looking for the same end result as you.
The hardest thing to determine on your own when dating is what your date’s intent is. Perhaps they want a relationship or perhaps they are just looking for someone fun to “knock boots” with. With every client belonging to the matchmaking firm that you will meet, you KNOW the timing is right for them to find someone that they can share a loving relationship with. Everyone has invested their hope, heart’s and their money. This knowledge puts the fun back into dating and enables you to simply relax, allowing yourself to be vulnerable and most importantly to be yourself.
When you join a matchmaking service, you’re not just looking for your special someone; they are also looking for you.
Everyone you meet has invested in meeting you.
Everyone has dating blind spots. Sometimes we continuously choose the same “type” of person who is not necessarily right for us. Other times, we take unconscious actions that sabotage our success in dating. When working with a professional matchmaking service, you are working with an entire team of professionals including marketing (to consistently head hunt for your potential match), matchmakers, relationship experts, dating coaches and image consultants. This team of dedicated entirely to your success!!
The only guarantee in life is you. It’s time to do something about your future relationships. Consider taking the pressure off and hire a professional matchmaking firm. Maybe you’ll find you the partner of your dreams.
Well, love is a great many things … Plato called it a “serious mental disease” … Shakespeare said that “love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind” … Victor Hugo said “the supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves – say rather, loved in spite of ourselves” … Paulo Coelho wrote that “love is not a habit, a commitment, or a debt. It isn’t what romantic songs tell us it is – love simply is” … but what is love really? Love is what you make it... (Read More)
Love is painful because it creates the way for bliss. Love is painful because it transforms; love is mutation. Each transformation is going to be painful because the old has to be left for the new. The old is familiar, secure, safe, the new is absolutely unknown. You will be moving in an uncharted ocean... (Read More)
A friend who had gone through a recent breakup called feeling panicked from intense feelings of loneliness and emptiness.
“I don’t know why I feel this way? I was just at an event with great people, I love my life, my work is going well and I know I did the right thing by ending my last relationship. Now that I’m home alone, I feel the overwhelming anxiety of being completely lonely. It terrifies me to a point of feeling sick to my stomach. What can I do?”... (Read More)
What would you add?